The Insanity of Alcoholism - It is unfortunate to note that concerned people make efforts to prevent the alcoholics from facing the nemesis of their actions (enabling) or try to foretell their future actions (no crystal ball available).
There are a number of wise Proverbs among alcoholics who are in various stages of recovery. While some should be viewed with literal eyes, some should elicit deep reflections in you. Alcoholics Anonymous indicate as "the insanity of our disease." The statement is very literal. Because it will take common sense, being able to spot the behavioural patterns, acceptance and willingness to learn from past errors, and jettisoning of human reasoning to understand an alcoholic, it is not easy for me to get you to reason like me, though I can tell you how to spot an alcoholic.
Alcohol dependency comes in very many shapes and forms. The conscious alcohol user, who is completely active, and has never experienced grievous loss, is the person I am referring to here. They will definitely experience such losses according to the way of addiction and also experience an unfortunate future (like jail or death) according to the rule of threes. Altered awareness of themselves and the surroundings is the foundation to alcoholic thinking, acting, and beliefs.
They live at the very great of all or nothing. There is no compromise in their view of the world and words like moderation and grey areas don't exist to them. To changeable levels, alcoholics are always denying their violence (self and others) and this also alters what they are capable to understand.
Because of their ability to convince themselves that lies are truths by justifying and rationalizing everything, you will discover the biggest liars among addicts. This occurs subconsciously.
They are not aware that they are messing around with their lives.
There are words that alcoholics adopt to fool others saying things that aren't true. The favourite word they use is "probably." "Probably" suggests goal which actually doesn't exist any. When an alcoholic says they will probably do something is very improbable they will do it. These words are ambiguous; they are a way out to keeping the word given and committing. The alcoholic depends on expressions such as possibly, maybe, would, could, should, I'd like to, I want to, I need to. These are words, which do not mean anything. They normally end up not being carried out even though they sound good. Gradually, all parts of an alcoholic's universe will be dragged into their alcoholism and this condition will change all their relationships and how they interact with people.
It is like looking down a tunnel only being able to see in one direction - this is the view that some alcoholics have. They can attend to numerous things but in order to achieve this objective, they must turn their attention away from one thing toward the other.
When an alcoholic attempts to multitask, all you end up with is a mess. An active alcoholic has no equilibrium. They will tend to concentrate on something specific and take it to the maximum limit. So, while they are spending so much time on one area, others will also follow suit, and the case of "firehouse management" will set in, and the need to tackle the most serious area will determine their life pattern. This is clearly a downward spiral, although some alcoholics manage to maintain a degree of control over it for a long time.
Alcoholics will tend to hide how often and how much they drink when they start consuming more alcohol. They will say they just had three glasses of wine and this is correct. However, the fact that each of those glasses was a 16 ounce tumbler is what you will not be informed. While concealing their drinking pattern, they could also conceal the problems that alcohol has caused for them. According to counsellors, people with alcohol dependency usually develop "an external locus of control." As time passes by everything become someone else's fault. In case their job isn't going well it's due to the fact that their employer dislike them. They will call their partners unreasonable when they have marital issues. When they fail as parents, they will begin calling their children ungrateful.
They will find a cause for drinking in anything and everything.At some point, when things are on a downward trend, the alcoholic will claim that it is their circumstances that force them to drink and that they themselves don't actually want to drink.
The sense of entitlement expressed by alcoholics is often the weird type. They explain that having a very hard/nerve-racking/challenging life entitles them to behave in actions that are childish, reckless, and self-centered. When observing the behaviour of an alcoholic it is easy to conclude and come to a belief that the entire world must owe them something. Self-pity is also common in alcoholics and many seem to think that the world is against them. And although they'll expect less from those around them, they'll still ask more from the world.
The fastest path to self elimination for alcohol addicts is the expression, "Screw it." The meaning is that they can go ahead and drink since everything is already damaged. One of the things that recovering alcoholics are encouraged to see is that the damage they are causing is mostly to themselves. And that when they say something isn't worth the trouble, they actually mean that they are not worth the trouble. At some stage, the alcohol addict always comprehends the truth and they are mostly working hard not to understand it. They won't just want to deny their condition on their own but will also want those around them to deny it themselves. Everything increasingly turns into exteriority and less into practicality. "Family Portrait", a song by Pink, properly elaborates this. "In our family portrait we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal '"
Alcoholics are chief schemers. After they became addicts they began showing incredible abilities as real performers. They are the ones that can convince everything, even selling ice to Eskimos. If they want you to leave, they will not just start a fight with you but will also make you believe that it is your fault. They manifest a bit or no liability at all. Their addiction has forced them into dishonesty and deceit. However, irrespective of the mentioned faults, each alcoholic will have one area where they are so good in and from where they derive the human pride to live. In some cases, you may get an alcoholic whose attitude to work is amazing, because it is an area they enjoy so much and are perfect in ......plus drinking.
The disease of alcoholism will gradually strip everything away from the individual We have been requested too many times if alcoholism is really a illness or an option. It is truly both things. Alcoholism is the only sickness that is undetected and is not honest to the addicted. The one who is active in alcohol addiction has a singular option comparative to all other illnesses. It is common to notice an alcoholic goes into remission at any time like numerous others do. So as to show themselves and others that they are in fact not dependent on alcohol, an alcoholic can go for some time without taking any alcohol but this can only go on for so long.
Becoming sober alone is not enough indication of total recovery from alcohol. Every part of an individual's life will undergo a change when he or she is looking forward to recovering from alcoholism. A "dry drunk" is the person that simply quits drinking but they are still not well as they've only given up the glass, not many people can do this on the long run. I think that the program from Alcoholics Anonymous is the only chance to put life back together. There are many important aspects associated with the AA program but their prominence can't be exaggerated. People in recovery will need the support of family and friends. But severally have I come across friends and relatives who unknowingly are aiding (shelving the alcoholics from the dangers of their problems) the addicts, and this deepens the addiction in them.