The Story Of Al-Anon
A family of support groups for people that have been affected by the problem of alcoholism within their family is identified as Al-Anon. The goal of theses groups is to be advantageous and therapeutic.
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 as an organization for providing support to friends and relatives of drunkards. Lois Wilson, well-known simply as Lois W, whose husband launched Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), laid the foundation of Al-Anon organization 16 years after AA was established. She herself faced the challenge of supporting a convalescent alcoholic, so, she created an organization aimed at people with the same problem. Al-Anon thrives through the contributions of its members. The family of the addicts usually get tips on how they can help their loved ones and live comfortably with them.
To assist members by having them understand they aren't alone in their struggle, is the principal target of Al-Anon.
Alcoholism Affecting The Whole Family
Al-Anon recognizes that alcoholism affects everyone in the family not just the addicted member. It is integral for the alcoholic's recovery to have a family and friend support system around them.
Some family members blame themselves for their loved one's drinking or may not realise why recovery is their loved one's primary concern. Support meetings can help deal about these issues in the best way while also making members understand that alcoholism should be treated as a family illness.
Alateen Is Al-Anon For Teenagers
Teens are also affected by alcoholism and that is why Alateen was formed within Al-Anon to help them.
The meetings held by Alateen help youngsters to meet with individuals within their age group in order to make their experiences more beneficial and interrelated.
Reasons To Partake In An Al-Anon Group
Members benefit from Al-Anon because they are introduced to many people and families who suffer from alcoholism. The best part about this program is that you can all relate with the same issue. The main advantage of Al-Anon is searching people who have had similar experiences to talk to. There are Al-Anon meetings all across the nation. Call us on 0800 246 1509 to help you find one near you.
What You Can Expect From A Meeting
For anyone who is affected by someone else's drinking, Al- Anon meetings are for those. You just need to identify whether the alcoholism of a particular individual is concerning you and make it known it is affecting your lifestyle, and rest assured that Al-Anon can provide the assistance you need.
The outcomes of these meetings is what scares some people from coming. Certain things to remember when considering attending a meeting:
- Al-Anon is anonymous meaning you do not identify yourself in the meeting
- Everybody present in each meeting has faced the problem of alcoholism, either personally or has a family member suffering from it
- Getting things off your chest is one way of recovery encouraged in this group although it is not mandatory
- Different Types Of Meetings Are Held For Everyone
- You may find some more beneficial to you than others.
- Al-Anon is not based on any religion
- Meetings are focused on Al-Anon 12 step program
Going to the meeting means that you accept the fact that there are matters discussed that will be of help to you or not. Based on this formula the meetings concentrate on the sharing of experiences and the hardships of the attendees rather than giving them any instructions about what they should do.
Al-Anon 12 Steps
As a rule, group meetings begin with reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. The 12 steps were adapted from the AA 12 Step program. There is a person to hold your hand as you go through the different stages of help. The 12 Steps are as follows:
- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Members can learn to accept alcoholism as a disease which they cannot control in others.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Members frequently motivate themselves to the brink by trying to reform or control their loved one.
- They understand to accept that they can revert to sanity, after acknowledging they are powerless.
- Made a resolution to turn our lives and our will over to the care of God in a way we perceived Him.
- It is important that members learn to let go.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Self-discovery plays a huge role in making the steps; and this is its beginning.
- A list of how they may have offended themselves or their loved ones (such as with threats) is made by attendees.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to others human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Writing each problem enables them to examine them one by one.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- Spiritual help is recognised as one way through which they can be helped.
- calmly begged Him to remove our drawbacks.
- This part of the 12 steps provides members with the assistance needed to understand how they may have been exercising control or being judgmental towards an addict and how these actions are counterproductive.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Most often making amends begins with yourself.
- Many people blame themselves for their addiction of their loved one.
- They must agree to pardon themselves and make amends.
- Made amends to such people directly where feasible, except for the cases when doing so is likely to hurt them or others.
- Working on the steps of recovery and help after forgiving yourself is the next step.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- It takes some period before you can complete the stages.
- Members are ready with an inventory, yet making an error is common.
- It s usually a duration and this is outlined by stage 10.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- This step is a personal, spiritual one; it comprises acceptance and comfort in view of the great stress of recovery.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
- Step 12 involves the member acknowledging the story has not ended.
- After this, group members are encouraged to support others by sharing what they have already learned.
Recognising The Higher Power
Despite Al-Anon not being a religious program of any kind, the members within do have an acceptance of a greater power. The "higher power" or God is according to each person's perception of whom they consider Him to be. Al-Anon is open to members of all religions and beliefs and accepts them with a commitment that no one will be forced to alter his or her belief.